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Complex, incisive, and heartfelt, Rules for Mothers is a representation of many women across the decades, and we’re finding that it resonates deeply with readers.
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PRAISE FOR RULES FOR MOTHERS:
“An intimate study of parenthood, sacrifice, and a fight for self-fulfillment.”—Kirkus Reviews (starred review)
“Young’s narrative is complex and emotive, shedding light on mental illness, the stigma surrounding divorce, and the often-overwhelming burdens of motherhood.”—Publishers Weekly’s BookLife
“Julie Young writes the high-wire act of motherhood like no other. Rules for Mothers is a raw, immediate and deeply poignant examination of modern motherhood and all its challenges. Bravo.” —Rene Denfeld, bestselling author of The Child Finder
“At home with four young children, Elly Sparrow is losing her sense of self and tries to stuff down her gnawing angst. Until she can’t. With graceful prose, debut novelist Julie Swendsen Young compels us to question gender rules and expectations and become the main character in our own life stories. Even when happy endings are not guaranteed.”—Vivian McInerny, Former journalist at The Oregonian
“Rules for Mothers is a heartfelt tale of one woman determined to have her own life despite the forces working against her. With crisp, clear prose, it speaks to the impossibility of remaining sane under the crippling expectations of motherhood. This story illuminates the timeless challenges so many mothers have faced, all set against the beautiful, nostalgic backdrop of 1980s Portland.”—Shannon St. Hilaire, author of To Look Upon the Sun
“Rules for Mothers is an intimate, honest exploration of marriage, the complexity of motherhood, self-discovery, and forging a path to maturity. Young’s novel shines a clear light on the work of finding yourself.” —Carol Kerr, Ph.D, psychologist, co-author of Not the Trip We Planned
“[A]n emotionally incisive and beautifully restrained exploration of the quiet unraveling that can happen behind the polished surface of family life.”—San Diego Book Review
“[A] reminder that motherhood, for all its beauty, is not a single story, and that reclaiming one’s voice is sometimes the most radical act of love there is.”—Los Angeles Book Review
“[A]n unflinching, beautifully crafted exploration of motherhood’s contradictions: its devotion and depletion, its intimacy and isolation. Through the lens of Elly Sparrow, a mother of four whose identity unravels beneath the expectations of wifehood and maternal perfection in 1980s Oregon, Young crafts a deeply human portrait of quiet suffocation and self-awakening.”—San Francisco Book Review
“Rules for Mothers isn’t just about motherhood; it’s about the cost of invisibility. It’s about women who give everything and realize, too late, that no one ever told them how to keep a piece of themselves. Honest, intimate, and often painfully familiar, this novel doesn’t offer easy answers, but it does what the best fiction should: it makes you stop and think about your own life in the silence between the words.”—Seattle Book Review
“Rules for Mothers is not simply about one woman’s unraveling; it is about the inheritance of silence, the unspoken grief of domestic life, and the dangerous myth of the “happy mother.” For readers who lived through the 1960s and 1970s, or for their daughters trying to understand them, this novel is both elegy and revelation. It reminds us that love and motherhood, though intertwined, are not the same thing, and that every woman deserves the right to tell her own story before the world decides it for her.”—Portland Book Review
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ABOUT RULES FOR MOTHERS:
A provocative exploration of purpose under the weight of motherhood Elly Sparrow’s four small children are clean and cute, and her workaholic husband is a good provider, but she often feels as if her life has been whittled down to two defining titles: mother and wife.
She yearns for something more, but what? When her marriage begins to crumble and her husband moves out, Elly must navigate the challenges of single motherhood while confronting deeper turmoil within herself.
As she balances the demands of everyday life, she embarks on a transformative—and at times daring—journey to redefine her purpose and learn to live on her own terms.
Set in the 1980s, Rules for Mothers is a poignant depiction of the enduring complexities of gender roles, motherhood, and mental health.
Elly’s struggles and discoveries paint a picture of the importance of self-fulfillment and the battle women must wage to build a life that works for them—rather than one that is rooted in the needs of others.
She should be happy at home with her provider husband and four small children—what more could a wife and mother want?
But the erosion of self that Elly experiences on a daily basis has finally managed to wear her down.
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