Author Heather Haldeman's debut memoir Kids and Cocktails Don’t Mix explores machinations of gender and power dynamics in the 1960s and ‘70s as Heather comes of age and must decide how she wants her own life to look.
Publisher: Apprentice House Press
Publish Date: June 2, 2021
Publicity: Mindbuck Media
Lead Publicist: Lisa@MindbuckMedia.com
"Haldeman has crafted an enthralling tale that mixes the allure of rubbing shoulders with the glitterati with the harrowing grit underneath the sparkle."—Bernadette Murphy - Author, Harley and Me
“Funny, sly, open-hearted and beautifully written, it’s a winner from the
first page to the last.” — Caitlin Flanagan author of Girl Land
“I love this book. The first time I read it I was bowled over, and each time I return to it, I find some new wonder. It’s a book about a culture - and a way of being - that seems almost fantastical, although it was just a few decades ago. It’s a book about manners, about putting on a brave front, about brilliant women trapped in a moment that expected everything and nothing from them. Set in Los Angeles over a period ranging from the 1970’s to the present day [yes? No 60’s for the opening scene?] Haldeman locates a great story within a girl’s life, and her eye for the exquisite detail - of clothes, of decor, of catered food served in silver chafing dishes - has a precision reminiscent of Didion writing at the height of her powers. Funny, sly, open-hearted and beautifully written, it’s a winner from the first page to the last.”— Caitlin Flanagan, Staff Writer - The Atlantic, Author - Girl Land
“Old time, moneyed Los Angeles. Women whose lives are dictated by the men they’re married to, and a child narrator who sees it all. Behind the Gates is the tender yet quick-witted story of Heatherbean, an overweight girl trying to make sense of world that doesn’t and shouldn’t make sense, and Marilyn, her starstruck mother who yearns for the glamour and ease life has told her to expect. Haldeman has crafted an enthralling tale that mixes the allure of rubbing shoulders with the glitterati with the harrowing grit underneath the sparkle. Reading this story, I cheered for Heatherbean and Marilyn, wanted to take a two-by-four after Heather’s father, and felt my heart break again and again, set off by bouts of laughter.”— Bernadette Murphy, Author - Harley and Me
“In Kids & Cocktails Don’t Mix we meet the Eaton family—observant Heather, her self-assured older sister April,their unreliable father, and larger-than-life mother, the unsinkable Marilyn. They enjoy a glamorous lifestyle in an exclusive Hancock Park neighborhood, but when the marriage collapses and funds run out, Marilyn, trained or no work outside the home, must seek a new breadwinner. Heather, the youngest, overlooked in a fractious blended family, finds ways to console herself. The author has an eye for telling detail, a compelling, honest voice and a sly sense of humor, viewing the often tragic occurrences with accuracy but also love. A fascinating and entertaining memoir of tribulations and survival.”— Marjorie Tesser, Editor - Mom Egg
ABOUT KIDS & COCKTAILS DON'T MIX:
KIDS & COCKTAILS DON’T MIX is a coming-of-age memoir following Heather, the pudgy granddaughter of the Governor of California, who grows up in an exclusive gated LosAngeles community with celebrities and political figures as neighbors, set against the backdrop of the Vietnam War.
When her father leaves to chase women and riches, her mother must lure in another man to hold onto the house and the lifestyle it represents. After the father disowns Heather and her sister they, like their larger-than-life glamorous mother, must find a way to move forward.
Watching the machinations of gender and power dynamics of the 1960’s and 70’s unfold in her own family, Heather becomes determined to make her own way through the world.
Unlike her mother, she vows not to rely on looks and seductions, but to find the heart underneath the gilt and glamour.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Heather Haldeman lives in Pasadena, California, and also spends some time in Utah. She has a loving husband, three grown children, and two granddaughters.
Her work has been published in The Christian Science Monitor, Chicken Soup for the Soul, From Freckles to Wrinkles, Grandmother Earth, The Mom Egg, and numerous online journals.
While she has received many prizes for her essays, Kid’s and Cocktails Don’t Mix is her debut book.